Monday, April 11, 2011
I HAVE A NEW HOME!
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Monday, October 18, 2010
Decorate your home, Organize your life!
Do you have a room or rooms in your home and you can not figure out what to do with it? Whether it needs style or organization, we can help and we promise to go all out!
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Healthy Friendship
We want our friends to be strong! Spiritual and, mentally.
We are drawn to our friends because they are either just like us and or posses a quality that we admire.
This is normal and this is fine. The problem comes in when...
1) We hide our weaknesses because we don't want our friends to think less of us.
2) We deny our short comings to our friends because we fear we may lose them.
3) We portray something other than our true selves so that our friends will be in awe of us.
4) We hide deep parts of our lives because we'd be too embarrassed and shamed for our friends to know and see us in a negative light.
The sad part about this is that is how some of our "FRIENDS" have treated us in the past/present. so we continue to display these unhealthy (often sinful) patterns.
1) Our friends expect us to be spiritually and mentally strong (always). After all, that's what drew them to us in the first place. They may say verbally that their expectations are not that high yet their actions prove other vise.
2) When we sin or fail our friends in certain areas they have thought less of us and made it known. some even have went as far as to talk about it to someone else.
3) Our friends expect to get hurt (maybe) but in a way that they feel acceptable. But when they get hurt in a way that they deem UNACCEPTABLE, they leave the relationship without even considering forgiving and working through the issue. don't get me wrong, sometimes God does call us to leave a relationship for good, I understand this totally. But that is not what I'm talking about. I'm also not referring to situations where a so called friend does something crazy to you like sleeps with your mate or slanders your name and betrays you. clearly this isn't a friend in the very first place, but an enemy that has on a costume of a friend.
4) Friends become attracted to you because you're so beautiful being Purple. They give you much praise and admiration for being Purple! They just love the color Purple. The problem arises when you suddenly become blue due to some life altering cicircumstances. Now that friend sees you are blue and they feel betrayed! They feel like you were a fake the whole time and everything about you being Purple was a lie! Now they withdraw because they feel as though they can not trust you! (It may be tempting to just portray Purple at this time but don't!) So they are feeling blue, not being blue. The key word here is FEELING. They have not changed who they are nor pretended to be something they were not. Blue is their current state for that season or moment, not a good time to leave. A time to stay a stick it out, that's what real friends do.
If we could trust that our "friends" wouldn't look down on us while sticking their noses up in the air, then maybe we wouldn't go to such great lengths to hide our true selves. If we could trust that who we are is who we are and how ever imperfect that is we still love ourselves then we would be comfortable in that and not portray anything else no matter who chooses to stay or go.
When some one sees us at church and ask how we are doing we can say not fine if that is true and not lie because we don't want them to think we are so less spiritual because we are truly depressed! If we don't trust that person or if we are just not prepared to go into grave detail about what our problem is when can simply tell them that truth as well "I really don't want to talk about it right now, or at all" If they think less of us or view us in a negative light because of that then they have issues as well and we can pray for them! We need to love and accept ourselves and who God created us to be regardless of people opinions of us. After all we all have trails, problems, issues and hang-ups, they are just different colors, (and sometimes the same).
When you can totally be yourself, the good and the bad, and you don't need to show, tell, prove, brag, or boast, when you can survive without compliments and praise from your friends and still be confident in who GOD has and is creating you to be, then you are healthy enough to have a friend.
When you can totally love someone with their good and their bad, and you don't feel the need to try to match, compare, or compete with who they are,what they have, or what they know, when you can give compliments and admiration to others with a true heart and not be in bondage having a heart filled with jealousy, secret hate, or envy, and you can be confident in who GOD created you to be, then you are healthy enough to be a friend.
We are drawn to our friends because they are either just like us and or posses a quality that we admire.
This is normal and this is fine. The problem comes in when...
1) We hide our weaknesses because we don't want our friends to think less of us.
2) We deny our short comings to our friends because we fear we may lose them.
3) We portray something other than our true selves so that our friends will be in awe of us.
4) We hide deep parts of our lives because we'd be too embarrassed and shamed for our friends to know and see us in a negative light.
The sad part about this is that is how some of our "FRIENDS" have treated us in the past/present. so we continue to display these unhealthy (often sinful) patterns.
1) Our friends expect us to be spiritually and mentally strong (always). After all, that's what drew them to us in the first place. They may say verbally that their expectations are not that high yet their actions prove other vise.
2) When we sin or fail our friends in certain areas they have thought less of us and made it known. some even have went as far as to talk about it to someone else.
3) Our friends expect to get hurt (maybe) but in a way that they feel acceptable. But when they get hurt in a way that they deem UNACCEPTABLE, they leave the relationship without even considering forgiving and working through the issue. don't get me wrong, sometimes God does call us to leave a relationship for good, I understand this totally. But that is not what I'm talking about. I'm also not referring to situations where a so called friend does something crazy to you like sleeps with your mate or slanders your name and betrays you. clearly this isn't a friend in the very first place, but an enemy that has on a costume of a friend.
4) Friends become attracted to you because you're so beautiful being Purple. They give you much praise and admiration for being Purple! They just love the color Purple. The problem arises when you suddenly become blue due to some life altering cicircumstances. Now that friend sees you are blue and they feel betrayed! They feel like you were a fake the whole time and everything about you being Purple was a lie! Now they withdraw because they feel as though they can not trust you! (It may be tempting to just portray Purple at this time but don't!) So they are feeling blue, not being blue. The key word here is FEELING. They have not changed who they are nor pretended to be something they were not. Blue is their current state for that season or moment, not a good time to leave. A time to stay a stick it out, that's what real friends do.
If we could trust that our "friends" wouldn't look down on us while sticking their noses up in the air, then maybe we wouldn't go to such great lengths to hide our true selves. If we could trust that who we are is who we are and how ever imperfect that is we still love ourselves then we would be comfortable in that and not portray anything else no matter who chooses to stay or go.
When some one sees us at church and ask how we are doing we can say not fine if that is true and not lie because we don't want them to think we are so less spiritual because we are truly depressed! If we don't trust that person or if we are just not prepared to go into grave detail about what our problem is when can simply tell them that truth as well "I really don't want to talk about it right now, or at all" If they think less of us or view us in a negative light because of that then they have issues as well and we can pray for them! We need to love and accept ourselves and who God created us to be regardless of people opinions of us. After all we all have trails, problems, issues and hang-ups, they are just different colors, (and sometimes the same).
When you can totally be yourself, the good and the bad, and you don't need to show, tell, prove, brag, or boast, when you can survive without compliments and praise from your friends and still be confident in who GOD has and is creating you to be, then you are healthy enough to have a friend.
When you can totally love someone with their good and their bad, and you don't feel the need to try to match, compare, or compete with who they are,what they have, or what they know, when you can give compliments and admiration to others with a true heart and not be in bondage having a heart filled with jealousy, secret hate, or envy, and you can be confident in who GOD created you to be, then you are healthy enough to be a friend.
Thursday, May 27, 2010
HIDDEN SELFISHNESS
When you have served on ministries,helped your family members, been there every time a friend needed you, been there when who ever called, worked and served and worked and served until you are so tierd and you have nothing left but blood, sweat, and tears, IT NEVER WAS ABOUT GOD OR THE PEOPLE YOU WERE SERVING, IT WAS ALL ABOUT YOU!
SOME PEOPLE NEED TO DO ALL AND BE ALL JUST TO FEEL IMPORTANT , NOTICED OR SEEN. THEY GET WRAPPED UP IN A WHOLE BUNCH OF THINGS THAT THEY WERE NEVER EVEN CALLED TO, SO THEY CAN FEEL A SENCE OF WORTH. SOMETIMES PEOPLE MISTAKE THESE PEOPLE FOR BEING "SOLDDDDDDDD OUT FOR CHRIST" AND THEY STRIVE TO BE LIKE THEM. THE TRUTH IS THEY ARE SOLD OUT TO THEMSELVES AND THAT FEELING OF BEING SPECIAL IN THE EYES OF MAN. YOUR SENCE OF WORTH NEEDS TO COME FROM THE FACT THAT GOD HAS CHOSEN YOU TO BE HIS. YOU DID NOTHING TO EARN THAT AND YOU CAN NEVER REPAY HIM.
Some have argueed that there are people that get burned out that are called to do many things. This is so true, and this is not foe them! This is for that person who is always talking about what they are doing for everyone , and they are always talking about it to everyone as they seek their praise and awards on earth. It takes a very mature Christian thats is willing to completely submit to the Holy Spirits leading to even admitt that they have this issue. If they are at least willing to receive that wisdom from him then maybe they can start to change this unseen by many selfish patteren.
SOME PEOPLE NEED TO DO ALL AND BE ALL JUST TO FEEL IMPORTANT , NOTICED OR SEEN. THEY GET WRAPPED UP IN A WHOLE BUNCH OF THINGS THAT THEY WERE NEVER EVEN CALLED TO, SO THEY CAN FEEL A SENCE OF WORTH. SOMETIMES PEOPLE MISTAKE THESE PEOPLE FOR BEING "SOLDDDDDDDD OUT FOR CHRIST" AND THEY STRIVE TO BE LIKE THEM. THE TRUTH IS THEY ARE SOLD OUT TO THEMSELVES AND THAT FEELING OF BEING SPECIAL IN THE EYES OF MAN. YOUR SENCE OF WORTH NEEDS TO COME FROM THE FACT THAT GOD HAS CHOSEN YOU TO BE HIS. YOU DID NOTHING TO EARN THAT AND YOU CAN NEVER REPAY HIM.
Some have argueed that there are people that get burned out that are called to do many things. This is so true, and this is not foe them! This is for that person who is always talking about what they are doing for everyone , and they are always talking about it to everyone as they seek their praise and awards on earth. It takes a very mature Christian thats is willing to completely submit to the Holy Spirits leading to even admitt that they have this issue. If they are at least willing to receive that wisdom from him then maybe they can start to change this unseen by many selfish patteren.
Monday, May 24, 2010
Single Women’s Standards
Tuesday, September 15, 2009 at 3:47pm
(every one should have standards, but are your's so high no man can reach them ?)
1.“He lives at home with his mother.” Why does he live at home with his mother? If you are turned off at just the sound of this and not even allow him to explain the situation, you could be pushing away a blessing.
A)He lives at home with his mother because his mother’s actually lives with him and he takes care of her because she is sick.
B)He just went threw a divorce because his ex cheated and he let her keep the house while he saves for a new one.
2.“He’s too old or too young.” There is such a thing as too old or too young for you, but sometimes we can be extra anal. When you are in your thirties 5 to 6 years difference is not a big deal, but at the same time if a guy is 23 and the girl is 17, that’s not cool at all. Each situation is different.
A)God could be trying to bring a slightly older man into your life for you to look up to and because it maybe easier for you to respect him.
B)God could also be bringing a slightly younger man into your life because that man will be a great fit for your personality, but if you never give him a chance, you’ll never know.
3.“He don’t have a job!” or a good enough job. Sometimes women look at men and think, that’s how I want my husband to be. But you don’t know what it took for him to be there, lots of times you are seeing the end result of a lot of hard work. A few years beside him while he’s working for UPS shouldn’t be beneath you.
A)He could be working at a shoe store while putting his self through collage.
B)He could have plans and dreams to own his own business, the dream will come true and what you turned down, 5 years later is looking kind of nice.
4.“He’s too newly saved.” In a lot of cases this seems like a logical reason. But each situation needs to be treated differently. A brother who’s on fire for the Lord and growing is all you need to make it. Men who have been saved for years do not come with a guaranteed GREAT HUSBAND stamp. Just don’t cross him off the list if he says he’s been saved for a year.
A)A man can be newly saved but surround himself with older men in the faith and grow to be a strong grounded Christian.
B)A man can be saved for a while and still do things that you thought a long time Christian man would never do.
5.“He just got out of a relationship.” I don’t quite understand the logic behind this but it’s something I’ve heard from women. What is wrong with a guy making a decision to walk away from something he didn’t see working?
A)Maybe God’s leading him to be connected with someone else, maybe that’s you? Why would you not even consider giving him the time of day because he just broke it off with someone?
B)Maybe the girl cheated or she just dumped him. Some ones lost can be your gain, but you won’t know that if this is a standard you have.
6.“ He doesn’t serve on church ministry.” So maybe you don’t see him serving in the church and you feel as thought that is a sign of his lack of commitment to the faith. You never take the time to even find out what he is doing outside of the church and write him off.
A)He could be a coach of a little league team and ministers to youth.
B)He could serve in many ways outside of the church and can be following his calling. Every man isn’t called to minister inside of the church walls but GOD still gets all the glory.
7.“He has too many kids!” In all fairness this is something that may be a real red flag. But sometimes ladies say too many and are talking about 2 or three kids.
What if you can’t bare children and GOD knows this? What if 2 or 3 kids just seems like a lot? He could be your hearts desire and then this fact makes you back up.
A)This man could have lost his wife to cancer or a car accident.
B)Waiting for the man without any kids could be a long one. Will you turn away someone God is sending you because he had children before you?
8.“He doesn’t have a car.” This is very worldly and ridiculous standard for a Christian woman to have.
A)He could have had a bad car accident and lost his car. He’s saving up for another one and hasn’t bought it yet.
B)He could be saving his money to buy his first home and sacrificing a car at the moment.
9.“ He doesn’t have any education.” Collage doesn’t guarantee a hard working man.
A)He may not have went to collage but he owns and runs his family’s business.
B)He could have just went to high school and got into a banking job and later will become the branch manager.
10.“He’s just not my type.” It’s not that I’m saying that you shouldn’t have preferences; it’s just that in waiting for the “Perfect Man” that fits your every idea, you can be passing by the blessing that God intends to give you. Marriage is a ministry that will challenge you to become more like CHRIST because you have to die to your self daily and sacrifice always. Your type and God’s intended type for you may be different. Our every purpose in life is to glorify GOD. GOD will join us together with someone who will help us to do that with our lives.
A)He’s not a great dresser like you would have liked, but maybe he’d be willing to let you help him out with that.
B)He’s not fine enough today in your eyes but when you see him 5 years later, wow! What did he do to his self?
I use to have a list that contained 10 things that I wanted my husband to be. There was only one thing on that list that he didn’t have. I actually thought about not allowing US to be because of this one silly thing. It’s realistic to have certain standards and by all means I hope you do, but just be sure that your “STANDARDS” are not conflicting with GOD’S PLANS.
Do you have any standards that I have not listed? Please email them to me, I’d love to hear them.
(every one should have standards, but are your's so high no man can reach them ?)
1.“He lives at home with his mother.” Why does he live at home with his mother? If you are turned off at just the sound of this and not even allow him to explain the situation, you could be pushing away a blessing.
A)He lives at home with his mother because his mother’s actually lives with him and he takes care of her because she is sick.
B)He just went threw a divorce because his ex cheated and he let her keep the house while he saves for a new one.
2.“He’s too old or too young.” There is such a thing as too old or too young for you, but sometimes we can be extra anal. When you are in your thirties 5 to 6 years difference is not a big deal, but at the same time if a guy is 23 and the girl is 17, that’s not cool at all. Each situation is different.
A)God could be trying to bring a slightly older man into your life for you to look up to and because it maybe easier for you to respect him.
B)God could also be bringing a slightly younger man into your life because that man will be a great fit for your personality, but if you never give him a chance, you’ll never know.
3.“He don’t have a job!” or a good enough job. Sometimes women look at men and think, that’s how I want my husband to be. But you don’t know what it took for him to be there, lots of times you are seeing the end result of a lot of hard work. A few years beside him while he’s working for UPS shouldn’t be beneath you.
A)He could be working at a shoe store while putting his self through collage.
B)He could have plans and dreams to own his own business, the dream will come true and what you turned down, 5 years later is looking kind of nice.
4.“He’s too newly saved.” In a lot of cases this seems like a logical reason. But each situation needs to be treated differently. A brother who’s on fire for the Lord and growing is all you need to make it. Men who have been saved for years do not come with a guaranteed GREAT HUSBAND stamp. Just don’t cross him off the list if he says he’s been saved for a year.
A)A man can be newly saved but surround himself with older men in the faith and grow to be a strong grounded Christian.
B)A man can be saved for a while and still do things that you thought a long time Christian man would never do.
5.“He just got out of a relationship.” I don’t quite understand the logic behind this but it’s something I’ve heard from women. What is wrong with a guy making a decision to walk away from something he didn’t see working?
A)Maybe God’s leading him to be connected with someone else, maybe that’s you? Why would you not even consider giving him the time of day because he just broke it off with someone?
B)Maybe the girl cheated or she just dumped him. Some ones lost can be your gain, but you won’t know that if this is a standard you have.
6.“ He doesn’t serve on church ministry.” So maybe you don’t see him serving in the church and you feel as thought that is a sign of his lack of commitment to the faith. You never take the time to even find out what he is doing outside of the church and write him off.
A)He could be a coach of a little league team and ministers to youth.
B)He could serve in many ways outside of the church and can be following his calling. Every man isn’t called to minister inside of the church walls but GOD still gets all the glory.
7.“He has too many kids!” In all fairness this is something that may be a real red flag. But sometimes ladies say too many and are talking about 2 or three kids.
What if you can’t bare children and GOD knows this? What if 2 or 3 kids just seems like a lot? He could be your hearts desire and then this fact makes you back up.
A)This man could have lost his wife to cancer or a car accident.
B)Waiting for the man without any kids could be a long one. Will you turn away someone God is sending you because he had children before you?
8.“He doesn’t have a car.” This is very worldly and ridiculous standard for a Christian woman to have.
A)He could have had a bad car accident and lost his car. He’s saving up for another one and hasn’t bought it yet.
B)He could be saving his money to buy his first home and sacrificing a car at the moment.
9.“ He doesn’t have any education.” Collage doesn’t guarantee a hard working man.
A)He may not have went to collage but he owns and runs his family’s business.
B)He could have just went to high school and got into a banking job and later will become the branch manager.
10.“He’s just not my type.” It’s not that I’m saying that you shouldn’t have preferences; it’s just that in waiting for the “Perfect Man” that fits your every idea, you can be passing by the blessing that God intends to give you. Marriage is a ministry that will challenge you to become more like CHRIST because you have to die to your self daily and sacrifice always. Your type and God’s intended type for you may be different. Our every purpose in life is to glorify GOD. GOD will join us together with someone who will help us to do that with our lives.
A)He’s not a great dresser like you would have liked, but maybe he’d be willing to let you help him out with that.
B)He’s not fine enough today in your eyes but when you see him 5 years later, wow! What did he do to his self?
I use to have a list that contained 10 things that I wanted my husband to be. There was only one thing on that list that he didn’t have. I actually thought about not allowing US to be because of this one silly thing. It’s realistic to have certain standards and by all means I hope you do, but just be sure that your “STANDARDS” are not conflicting with GOD’S PLANS.
Do you have any standards that I have not listed? Please email them to me, I’d love to hear them.
True Dreams
I don't know what you are dreaming of and for but with God all things are possible. If you seek Him 1st and make Him your #1 desire, I can promise you that
YOUR DREAMS WILL COME TRUE!
I know how it feels to want to give up.
But keep moving, no matter what.
I know how it feels when you just want to die.
But you have to keep pressing, and look to the sky.
When everything feels wrong, and your heart is down.
No one seems to understands and defeat has you bound.
I want you to remember, you're on solid ground.
I know how it feels to hurt inside,
I know how it feels to have lost your pride,
I know what it's like to feel all alone.
But God is right there with you, wherever you may roam.
When I look back at my life, I truly must say,
This pain is not permanent, it will vanish one day.
So no matter how bad things may seem, or what
GOD allows you to go through,
One day you'll see sunshine and your dreams will
come true!
YOUR DREAMS WILL COME TRUE!
I know how it feels to want to give up.
But keep moving, no matter what.
I know how it feels when you just want to die.
But you have to keep pressing, and look to the sky.
When everything feels wrong, and your heart is down.
No one seems to understands and defeat has you bound.
I want you to remember, you're on solid ground.
I know how it feels to hurt inside,
I know how it feels to have lost your pride,
I know what it's like to feel all alone.
But God is right there with you, wherever you may roam.
When I look back at my life, I truly must say,
This pain is not permanent, it will vanish one day.
So no matter how bad things may seem, or what
GOD allows you to go through,
One day you'll see sunshine and your dreams will
come true!
Ask Me and I'll Say YES!
The Engagement
July 19Th 2001
"So are you my lady?"
"Yes, yes I'm your lady"
It was like heaven on earth. The day I'll never forget. Yeah Dell forgets sometimes , well all the time about this anniversary, but I'll never forget it for the rest of my life. I don't mind that he forgets it because he never forgets our Wedding Anniversary. This day meant so much to me because I had waited all my life for the day that I'd meet my husband, the man that loved me to death, inside and out. July 19, 2001 was the day it all became real. To be a wife was my dream, more than anything in life I wanted to be a wife and have a family. I use to listen to songs and long for a man to love me in such a way that He'd give his life for me (love me like Christ loved the Church). Now, here he was. Dell was 28 and I was 27. He'd just turned 28 June 4Th and I just turned 27 on July 3rd. Now our conversations were of marriage and how we'd build our lives. We were done with the games and we both had reached a point where settling down was our goal in life. So we talked and we discussed things like partners and I received my engagement ring in April of 2002. Sorry, but neither one of us knows the exact date that he gave me the ring that I picked out myself, but we were engaged before the ring came upon my hand. Our engagement day was JULY 19Th, 2001 (remember). In our friendship we built a wide open tell all relationship so there was no question in our next steps. God had spoken and we heard Him loud and clear. We were to become one! I still dwell on our love and how it became, God didn't have to bless me. I look at my husband and all I can do is praise God for His unconditional love, and His promises.
I had a dream one night that Delmar bought me a black pearl for my engagement ring. I told him about my dream and he worried that I wouldn't like my ring because 90% of the gifts he had been buying for me I didn't like. So, he told me to go to the store and look at the ring, and if I didn't like it to pick out what I wanted. Now, I know what you are thinking, (that's not romantic at all), but hey, I had to love my ring he didn't. (LOL) So I was so excited about picking it out (of course I didn't like what he picked out, but he has gotten much better at picking out gifts for me! lol). Dell was wearing his wedding band before we were even married. Waiting wasn't necessary. Some things are just so minute when you are madly in love with your dream come true!
My Poem Of Faith
"I didn't know who, how, or when, but God told me He would send me a husband, so I started dreaming. I wanted him to be more than loving and more than fine. I wanted him to love the Lord with all of his being. God said He would do that and more. More than I could even think to ask for. As I dreamed up my Mr. Wonderful I wrote about what I thought and dreamed of him to be. It went like this:"
HIM
He walked into my life unaware of my skills. He was mesmerized by my beauty and how my presence made him feel. As time flew by and he learned new things, his love for me grew stronger, especially when I'd sing. I'd read him soft poetry and watch as his heart would beat. This man loves me to the extreme, I've knocked him off of his feet! As I sleep at night I can feel him staring upon my face, as he thanks Our Lord and mutters "no one can take her place". As he takes down the meal I prepared he explains how I'm the best. He dives into his plate full force and surfaces when there none left. The goodness of my cooking is turning my husband on. We flee the kitchen table, not returning till dawn. He's so grateful to God for leading him to me. We see eye to eye and most always agree. He didn't want to beg God, yet some how he felt incomplete. Then God spoke to his heart one day and said :There's someone I'd like you to meet." Realizing God's strength and being aware of His power, still didn't prepare him for his blessing of showers.
I rub his feet after work because his job is so hard. I massage his back daily, there are invisible scars. I run his bath and as he gets in, he thinks of my goodness and it causes him to grin. I come to wash his back after putting the kids to bed. I know he wants me to join him, his thoughts I can see through his head. Our joy could have been sin if we would not have wed, and waited on the Lord to do just what He said!
Poem
No I've never been loved like this before,
I just know it's all that I've been praying for.
The days drift by and you seem to love me more.
You are the one that I shall cherish, the one that I adore.
I never thought you could know me so well and treat me so right.
But my faith allowed me to see what was not in my sight.
And with GOD our love will remain consistent and tight.
It's truly hard to be angry with you, almost impossible to be mad.
Because I see you as my little savior, who has rescued me at last!
July 19Th 2001
"So are you my lady?"
"Yes, yes I'm your lady"
It was like heaven on earth. The day I'll never forget. Yeah Dell forgets sometimes , well all the time about this anniversary, but I'll never forget it for the rest of my life. I don't mind that he forgets it because he never forgets our Wedding Anniversary. This day meant so much to me because I had waited all my life for the day that I'd meet my husband, the man that loved me to death, inside and out. July 19, 2001 was the day it all became real. To be a wife was my dream, more than anything in life I wanted to be a wife and have a family. I use to listen to songs and long for a man to love me in such a way that He'd give his life for me (love me like Christ loved the Church). Now, here he was. Dell was 28 and I was 27. He'd just turned 28 June 4Th and I just turned 27 on July 3rd. Now our conversations were of marriage and how we'd build our lives. We were done with the games and we both had reached a point where settling down was our goal in life. So we talked and we discussed things like partners and I received my engagement ring in April of 2002. Sorry, but neither one of us knows the exact date that he gave me the ring that I picked out myself, but we were engaged before the ring came upon my hand. Our engagement day was JULY 19Th, 2001 (remember). In our friendship we built a wide open tell all relationship so there was no question in our next steps. God had spoken and we heard Him loud and clear. We were to become one! I still dwell on our love and how it became, God didn't have to bless me. I look at my husband and all I can do is praise God for His unconditional love, and His promises.
I had a dream one night that Delmar bought me a black pearl for my engagement ring. I told him about my dream and he worried that I wouldn't like my ring because 90% of the gifts he had been buying for me I didn't like. So, he told me to go to the store and look at the ring, and if I didn't like it to pick out what I wanted. Now, I know what you are thinking, (that's not romantic at all), but hey, I had to love my ring he didn't. (LOL) So I was so excited about picking it out (of course I didn't like what he picked out, but he has gotten much better at picking out gifts for me! lol). Dell was wearing his wedding band before we were even married. Waiting wasn't necessary. Some things are just so minute when you are madly in love with your dream come true!
My Poem Of Faith
"I didn't know who, how, or when, but God told me He would send me a husband, so I started dreaming. I wanted him to be more than loving and more than fine. I wanted him to love the Lord with all of his being. God said He would do that and more. More than I could even think to ask for. As I dreamed up my Mr. Wonderful I wrote about what I thought and dreamed of him to be. It went like this:"
HIM
He walked into my life unaware of my skills. He was mesmerized by my beauty and how my presence made him feel. As time flew by and he learned new things, his love for me grew stronger, especially when I'd sing. I'd read him soft poetry and watch as his heart would beat. This man loves me to the extreme, I've knocked him off of his feet! As I sleep at night I can feel him staring upon my face, as he thanks Our Lord and mutters "no one can take her place". As he takes down the meal I prepared he explains how I'm the best. He dives into his plate full force and surfaces when there none left. The goodness of my cooking is turning my husband on. We flee the kitchen table, not returning till dawn. He's so grateful to God for leading him to me. We see eye to eye and most always agree. He didn't want to beg God, yet some how he felt incomplete. Then God spoke to his heart one day and said :There's someone I'd like you to meet." Realizing God's strength and being aware of His power, still didn't prepare him for his blessing of showers.
I rub his feet after work because his job is so hard. I massage his back daily, there are invisible scars. I run his bath and as he gets in, he thinks of my goodness and it causes him to grin. I come to wash his back after putting the kids to bed. I know he wants me to join him, his thoughts I can see through his head. Our joy could have been sin if we would not have wed, and waited on the Lord to do just what He said!
Poem
No I've never been loved like this before,
I just know it's all that I've been praying for.
The days drift by and you seem to love me more.
You are the one that I shall cherish, the one that I adore.
I never thought you could know me so well and treat me so right.
But my faith allowed me to see what was not in my sight.
And with GOD our love will remain consistent and tight.
It's truly hard to be angry with you, almost impossible to be mad.
Because I see you as my little savior, who has rescued me at last!
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